Saul Bellow – Quote Of The Week

Quote Of The Week

This week’s quote is by Saul Bellow.

Saul Bellow

What do you think of this week’s quote by Saul Bellow?

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Writers Workshop-Favorite Quote

QuotesThis weeks for the writers workshop I am going to write about #4 which is a quote that I love.  I am going to list a few that I love because I have so many that I have used for my Quotes Of The Week posts and I can’t just choose one.

strong.jpg StrengthC. S. Lewis Robin Williams

Those are just a few of the quotes that I am loving right now.  What quotes are you loving right now?

Here are the other prompts for this week in case you want to join in:

1. An 8th grade memory.
2. Write a blog post inspired by the word: journey.
3. Book review!
4. Share a quote you love.
5. Spring Cleaning! Share a before and after photo of a room you recently tackled.

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Agatha Christie-Quote Of The Week

Quote Of The WeekThis weeks quote is another one by Agatha Christie.  If you missed the first one you can check it out here.

Agatha Christie 2

I loved this quote because I know quite a few people who ask for advice and then don’t take it.  What makes me even more frustrated is when they then complain that they made the wrong choice.  I am always want to say well if you had listened to me then you wouldn’t be in the situation you are in now. I am not saying that I always know the right answers but it does upset me when I do end up being right and the person always does the exact opposite of what I say and then complain about their choices.

What do you think of this weeks quote by Agatha Christie?  What quotes are you loving right now?

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My Sleeping Problems

Sleeping Problems

So I haven’t ever written about my problems with sleeping on this blog but I feel I need to write about it because there may be other people out there struggling with the same things.  I also hope that someone out there may have some suggestions for things I have tried yet to try to help me sleep.   I have always had problems sleeping but in the last few years it has gotten 100 times worse.

I first really started to notice my sleeping problems when I was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis when I was 15 or 16.  I have always had problems sleeping but I really started to notice them in high school and college.  From the age of about 16 I was given prescriptions for Ambien and Sonata which are both sleeping pills.  So at this point those two no longer work for me.  When I was in my mid twenties they prescribed me Lunesta which for me was a wonder drug because for the first time I was able to sleep and I didn’t seem to get used to them.

I took those on and off for years.   The insurance I know have through work refuses to pay for them and there is no way I can afford to pay over $200 a month for them so I haven’t been able to get them.  Since I haven’t been able to get them I have had to start trying all the over the counter sleeping medications and I haven’t had much luck with them.

I have tried taking Melatonin and I will still take it sometimes but I have found that I have to take so much of it to get me to sleep that I end up with a huge headache the next morning.  The only thing I have found that works is taking a combination if Tylenol PM & Ibuprofen PM along with a time released Melatonin pill to help me stay asleep longer because lately I manage to take enough stuff to fall asleep but I can’t stay asleep to save me life.

I have also stopped watching TV after work and I try not to use my cell phone once I am home so that I can try to wind down from the day but no matter what I try nothing seems to be working for me.

Does anyone know of anything else I can try to use for sleep?  I will take any and all suggestions at this point!

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Ways to Cope With Placing Your Child For Adoption

I placed my daughter for adoption in July of 2005.   I attend a support group for unwed mothers that the agency I was going to had.  Not everyone in the group was placing for adoption but I learned so much from the girls that have placed and listening to what worked and didn’t work for them.  I figured that I would share some of the things that worked for me and things that may work for other birth parents.

Before I get into them I was researching some things on adoption and I found this article.  While I reading through article I found this paragraph and I really liked what it said.  I am going to post it here because I think it speaks volumes about how birth parents are looked at by people who don’t understand are choices.  Here is the paragraph:

Most people at some time in their lives experience grief when they are separated from a loved one. However, in adoption, there are no standard grieving processes or approved rituals to help birthparents cope. When a well-liked co-worker accepts a new job in a new city, there is often a going away party. When a loved one dies, there may be a religious service, a wake, a funeral, and visits to the survivors’ home by friends and relatives. But birthparents’ grief is distinct from most other types of grief, because it is not always socially acceptable to talk about what happened.

Now on to the ways I coped and ways that others have coped with the greif.

  • Journal-I wrote out why I placed her in a journal that I then gave to the adoptive mom to give to my daughter when they thought she was ready to read it.
  • Talk to other birth moms-It helped me tons to be able to talk to other girls who had been though it and could tell me that it would get better with time.  I never thought the first year would end but each year it gets easier at least it has for me.
  • Take one day at at time-There are time where You are going to have to take it minute by minute but know that time will heal the pain.  At first the pain is so raw that it is all you can think about but it does get easier I promise.
  • Build a support system-I helps to have people who know the whole story and whither or not they agree with your choice they will still stand behind you and listen to you talk.  There will be times that just talking to someone and having them not try to answer but just listen helps so much.  It makes such a difference to just get the thoughts out of you head and have someone not feel the need to try and make it better but just listen.
  • Allow yourself to feel the emotions-I know in the beginning I wanted to run from the emotions I was feeling and not feel anything but by doing that you are going to be making it harder in the long run.  Allow yourself to feel and grieve.
  • Keep Scrapbooks and/or pictures around-If you were to walk into my room right now the only pictures I have up are the ones of her when she is older.  In the beginning looking at the pictures made me feel better but after the first year and even know it is so hard for me to look at the pictures of her while we were in the hospital because I want the baby.  I heard from one of the girls in the support group that her child became two different people in her head even though she knew they were the same.  She like me wanted the baby and not the child that she is now.
  • If you need help ask-Don’t be too afraid to talk to a counselor if you are having a hard time deal with all of the emotions.  I saw one quite awhile after I placed my daughter and that helped me so much.

When I think of more ways I am for sure going to post them and if you know of any other ways to cope please leave a comment so that I can add it to my next post.

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Advice & Why I Am Glad To Get A Divorce


It is Thursday and that means it is time for Mama Kat’s Writers Workshop.  I haven’t done this in awhile because none of her prompts seemed like something I could write about but this week there are two of them that I want to write about.  So here goes nothing hope you all enjoy this edition of the Writers Workshop.
The Prompts:

1.) 10 Reasons why you’re better off without him….or her….or it.

  1.  Less drama
  2. Less fighting
  3. I no longer have to feel bad if I don’t feel like talking to him that day.
  4. I don’t have to be around his dog!!!!! (His dog is dumber than a bag of rocks!)
  5. Not worried about what he is doing and who he is talking to.
  6. Don’t have to check in with him
  7. Couldn’t trust him after what he did on Christmas in 2008
  8. I only have to worry about me and my cats
  9. I actually get to spend a little bit of my check
  10. I am not always worried about paying his creditors and how we are going to stay above water for another month.

2.) Brea from Tomika’s Treasure Trove wants your advice: Quick question. I am new to the blogging world, having clocked up less than 2 weeks worth of posts, and I have just had an ‘Anonymous’ commenter slam me for blogging about my daughter, mentioning her by name, posting photos and up-to-date stories about her. I have not mentioned anywhere in my blog where we live, Country OR State, or what school she goes to. I have also seen, on several other blogs, that other parents do the same thing as me. Some even mention where they live. I was wondering, as a fellow blogger who posts about your family, what are your thoughts on the subject?

Well I would tell the people who have anything to say to just go away.  It is your blog and you can post whatever you want.  If you are fine posting that stuff don’t worry about what everyone else thinks.  It isn’t really any of their business what you post on your blog.  I love how people think that because they are comfortable with posting those things on their own blogs and everyone else shouldn’t post them either.
I guess the best way to put it is it is your blog post what you want and tell everyone else if they don’t like it they don’t have to read it!