I haven’t written about adoption in a long time because I never had the time to sit down and write anything other than a book review. Since things have pretty much slowed down for me at work right now, I wanted just to write about one of the thoughts I have had for awhile because I keep hearing stories about it in the news.
It seems like every time I turn around I am hearing about mothers placing baby’s for adoption and not telling the fathers what they are doing. It makes me sad because then those of us who followed all the steps including having the birth father sign away their rights are looked at like we might have done the same thing.
When I placed my daughter, I had no option but to have him sign away his rights because he was in the military and had to for me to place. I do know that some girls I knew through a support group I attend had the fathers of their child sign the papers as well just so that they didn’t have to worry about something like this happening.
I have to wonder if the birth father was okay with it until his family decided that they weren’t. I could be wrong but at times, that is what it seems like when you see the stories. I am sure there are cases where the birth fathers honestly didn’t know, and I feel terrible for them because no one should have that done to them. In the end, though everyone ends up getting hurt most of the time the child truly suffers because they don’t understand what is going on.
In the end, though everyone ends up getting hurt most of the time the child truly experiences because they don’t understand what is going on. They have no idea why they are taken away from all they have known and being given to strangers. I am aware that we have no way of knowing how this will affect them later in life or things like that.
I just truly feel bad for everyone involved and I hope that people can figure out a way to stuff like this to not happen anymore. Those are just a few of the thoughts I have been having, and I am wondering what you think about it and if you have any ideas as to how it could be changed?