Adoption Thoughts-Judging

Adoption Thoughts

This week for adoption thoughts I am going to write about something that was said to me that made me sad for many reasons but I also wanted to see how other people would feel if this was said to them.  A few weeks ago I had a friend who adopted her first child tell me that she felt like I judge her because of her parenting and that she bet I was glad that I didn’t place my daughter with her.

First off I don’t ever judge anyone and their parenting choices because they are doing what they know and just because my parenting choice was different than theirs doesn’t mean that mine was right and that their choices are wrong or vice versa.  All I know about parenting is that the choice I made was right for me and my daughter other than that as long as you aren’t abusing your kids I don’t care the choices you make for your family.

Now on to when she said that she bet I was glad I didn’t place my daughter with her.  I am glad I didn’t place my daughter with her because my daughter wasn’t meant for her or her family.  She was meant to be where she is.  If my daughter had been meant for her than that is where I would have placed her but she wasn’t.  Like I said before I don’t judge anyone on their choices and if I had to go through it all again I know I would place my child where she was meant to be and it wouldn’t matter who those people were.

One thing that has always bothered me about mothers is how they are always judging each other.  Being a mom is a hard job so instead of judging we should be helping each other.  I have always said that I wouldn’t want to raise kids in today’s world so I know I would have any children but if I do change my mind I would want help from people who have done it before me.  I always get sad when I mom’s attacking each other because of choices they make for their family.  You may not agree with someone’s choices but that doesn’t make the wrong and that is no reason to judge them or bully them.  This post went somewhere I didn’t think it would but I am going to leave it because it is true and something I think needs to be said.

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Cyberbullying

I recently have started watching YouTube video’s and am totally disgusted in what I have seen these past few months.  I am disgusted that there are people who have nothing better to do than  watch a video someone has put on there and then leave nasty rude comments.  If I don’t like a video that I watch I just leave the page and don’t subscribe to their channel or read their blog.  There is no reason that any human being needs to bully anyone else.  I am so tired of hearing about all the bullying that happens to people.  I don’t agree with everything I see or read but I am not going to bully someone because I don’t agree with them.  They believe what they believe and I believe what I believe.

Also I don’t understand how people can be so rude to people they have never met.  I can pretty much guarantee you that the people doing this wouldn’t say anything to the persons face if they did meet them.  At work there is a policy that says that “Do not write anything in an email message that is inappropriate to say to others face-to-face.”.  I believe that everyone needs to follow this rule.  If you can’t say it to the person’s face then you shouldn’t say it at all.

I grew up being bullied so now I don’t stand or it or even deal with it.  I have been lucky this far because no one has been mean to me yet in the blogging world but I don’t think it will stay that way forever.  I am sure at some point there will be people trying to bully me but I also know that I personally won’t allow it to happen.  I won’t stand for it and I also won’t acknowledge the people that are doing the bullying.  I believe that the bullies love the attention they get when they bully people so the keep  doing it.   I am sure if everyone just ignored them then they wouldn’t keep it up.

If anyone is being bullied hang in there I know it is hard but you can make it.  It will be a hard fight but I made it and I know all of you can make is as well.  I hope everyone had a great Christmas and has an even better New Years!

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Disgusted

I usually don’t bring up current events on my blog but when I say this story I knew I had to say something.  I am disgusted that teachers treat students like this.  How in the hell can someone treat anyone like they treated this poor girl.  What makes it even worse to me is the fact that the teacher is still teaching kids!  Bullying is horrible  and never should happen but what makes it worse is the fact that this poor beautiful girl was being bullied by the people that should keep her safe and make sure that no one hurts her.  Everyday I see more and more children committing suicide because of bullying and something really needs to be done.  How can anyone live with themselves knowing that they pushed someone to kill themselves and how can a teacher do this to a child.  I was bullied and it make me so sad to see so many children get bullied and now to know that teachers maybe doing it as well as other students breaks me heart.

There isn’t much more to say other than the teacher needs to lose her license so that she is no longer around children!

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Lack Of Respect

A child who is allowed to be disrespectful to his parents will not have true respect for anyone.
Billy Graham

I am writing this post because I am worried that children in America are not being taught to respect other people.  You see all to often that people today want respect but don’t think they need to show respect.  It pisses me off to see how teenagers are treating their parents and even other teenagers that they don’t like.  I know when I was in high school there always was groups of kids that didn’t get along but for the most part we left each other alone.  Now it seems like kids go out of their way to make other people miserable.  I am having a hard time watching people do and seeing people I care about get hurt by family members.  I don’t get along with most of my family but I just ignore them.  I don’t go out of my way to hurt them.  How can a child be so disrespectful to the person who gave birth to them?  I had a rough childhood to say the least and I still can’t bring myself to disrespect my parents.  I can’t figure out why parents aren’t teaching their kids respect anymore.  How can parents sit back and be okay with their children bullying kids to the point that they commit suicide and even after the kid has passed away they are still saying rude things to them.  I truly can’t believe what the world is coming to.  You may not like everyone or even get along with everyone but you can leave them alone and not go out of your way to make people miserable.  Why people just leave each other alone.  Hell it isn’t just kids that bully either.  I have to wonder where the lack of respect has come from and if it will ever change.  I know I am rambling but I really want to know why people have changed so much and how parents can sit by and let their child treat people with such a lack of respect. 

I guess that is all I can say about it.  I am sure that I will post about this subject again because it is such a huge problem in today’s world.

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Please Stop Laughing At Me

I just finished reading “Please Stop Laughing At Me” by Jodee Blanco.  I have never written a book review but I loved this book and wanted to share some parts of it with you.  More than that though I really think that everyone should read this especially teenagers.  This book is about the bullying that she endured while she went to school.  She had to go through this all through school and now as an adult isn very successful and is trying to spread more awareness of bullying in schools.
I also had to endure bullying from about 5th grade until I graduated.  I got 2 years of relief when I went to a different school but when I came back it started up again.  Now what I endured wasn’t nearly as bad she what she went through but it was bad enough to make my life hell.  I think the bullying is on the rise and parents and kids need to take more of a stand to try and stop it.  I know it won’t ever be totally gone away but maybe if kids read this book they will see what it does to kids and more kids will try and stand up for the kids that are always picked on.