I usually don’t bring up current events on my blog but when I say this story I knew I had to say something. I am disgusted that teachers treat students like this. How in the hell can someone treat anyone like they treated this poor girl. What makes it even worse to me is the fact that the teacher is still teaching kids! Bullying is horrible and never should happen but what makes it worse is the fact that this poor beautiful girl was being bullied by the people that should keep her safe and make sure that no one hurts her. Everyday I see more and more children committing suicide because of bullying and something really needs to be done. How can anyone live with themselves knowing that they pushed someone to kill themselves and how can a teacher do this to a child. I was bullied and it make me so sad to see so many children get bullied and now to know that teachers maybe doing it as well as other students breaks me heart.
There isn’t much more to say other than the teacher needs to lose her license so that she is no longer around children!
This post was originally posted last year during National Adoption Month. I have updated it and I feel that this can still help other birth mom’s out there.
I had another post scheduled for today but after reading some blogs by couples are looking to adopt and watching a music video I knew in my heart that I needed to post this. As I am writing this I am crying but it is something that I hope will help heal me in time.
It is national adoption month and it has hit me hard. I have found blogs of great couples looking to adopted and I can’t help but get sad when I read them. I feel so bad for them and yet it brings my own pain of being a birth mom up again. It is something I haven’t totally dealt with because it hurts and no one likes to hurt. I can’t believe my daughter is 6. Right now it seems like just yesterday and I placed her for adoption.
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Dear Brita,
I can’t believe you are already 6 years old. I remember like it were yesterday being pregnant with you and you pushing your feet so hard in my side that I would push it back and you would push even harder. I remember the months of being sick while I was pregnant and finding out who where true friends and who weren’t. I can remember going into labor and not wanting to be because I wasn’t ready to say goodbye yet. I knew once you were born I was going to have to say goodbye and I didn’t know how I was going to make it through saying goodbye. I can remember watching you with your parents and know I was making the right choice but that didn’t make it hurt any less. I can remember handing you to your dad and them walking out with you in their arms. I remember the pain but I also know that it was the right option for you. If I could go through it all again I would because I know without a doubt that You are where you are supposed to be. I hope you grow up happy. I would say and loved but I know they love you with all their hearts. I hope you never doubt the love I have for you. I will always love you no matter what you do. I placed you because I knew I couldn’t give you what you deserved in life. You deserve so much more than I could ever give you! I know you will do great things in life and that is why I placed you. In closing know that I love you and miss you everyday!!!!
Adoption is never an easy decision – whether you’re the one placing a child in adoption or the one adopting. It’s a very emotional and personal experience, and one that requires intense thought and consideration. If you are ever in the position where you want or need to place your childin adoption, it’s safe to say you’re probably dealing with some very heavy emotions and in need of support, even if you know you’re doing the right thing and are happy to be doing so.
1. Find Support
This can be done in the form of a support group, connecting with others who have been through the adoption process themselves, joining online forums, talking with a close friend or family member – anything that allows you to lean on someone during the highs and lows of the process. This is a life-changing experience and you need to make sure that you have all of your feelings sorted out as you navigate your way through the process.
2. Do Your Homework
Spend time researching the different adoption agencies and make sure to find one that you feel fits you the best. This is a very personal decision and experience and you want to be sure that everyone is on the same page and that you feel that the people helping you find a new home for your child are doing their best to find a loving home for him/her.
3. Decide What Type of Relationship You Want to Have
Spend some time figuring out if you want to have an open, semi-open, or closed adoption. You will need to spend some time asking yourself some very serious questions: when you place the child in adoption, do you want that to be it or do you want to have some form of contact with them throughout the years?
4. Figure Out What You Want for Your Child
Some agencies will let you pick the adopting parents while others will only let you give you opinion on what kind of family your child is adopted into. Figure out what kind of family you want your child raised in – is there a specific religion, do you want your child to be raised in a two-parent home, etc. Even if you aren’t able to pick the specific family that adopts your child, it’s still important to voice your opinion (if you have one) so that the agency can take that into consideration.
5. Realize What You’re Doing
You are giving your child the opportunity to have a life that you are unable to provide – as hard as placing your child in adoption may be, realize that you’re not giving them up, but giving them life.
The process of placing a child in adoption can be a long and painful one, but in the end also a rewarding one. You are providing for your child in a way that allows them to have a life they wouldn’t otherwise have, and that is something to be celebrated.
Author Bio
Nancy Parker was a professional nanny and she loves to write about wide range of subjects like health, Parenting, Child Care, and Babysitting, find a nanny tips etc. You can reach her @ nancy.parker015 @ gmail.com.
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