PERSONAL THOUGHTS

Dear Melissa

As you all know one of my best friends passed away on Sunday.  I have tried many times to write this post and I have never been able to get words down on the screen.  I have really struggled with this because it was such a shock to me.  I was orginally going to write about what I love about her but I have decided that I am going to write a letter to her so that I can tell her everything that I never got a chance to do while she was alive.

* I am not going to get into what happened and other things that are going on as a result.   I know Melissa would want me to keep living and let go of anger and hate.

Dear Melissa,

I miss you more and more everyday.  I wish that you would have called me and let me know you were so down so that I could have helped you.  I am writing this because I want to tell you and all my readers what I learned from you in the short time I knew you.

  • I learned how to be a better writer.  You wrote posts that made people think and I hope that one day I can become as good as a writer as you were.  Every post you wrote for my blog and even your own blog made me think and contemplate things in my own life.  It takes an amazing writer to make people realize that they need to make changes in their lives just because of something you wrote.
  • I learned not to ever let people treat me bad.  I saw what happened to you and I refused to let people do that to me.  I show the toll it took on her and I don’t ever want people to control me.
  • I also learned that admitting you have a mental illness is nothing you need to hide.  It was great to see that I can blog about things and there are people out there that won’t judge me and will understand.   You are part of the reason I wrote my adoption story and started to post things that make me vulnerable.  I guess I hope one day I have people come to my blog like you had going to yours!
  • I learned to look for join in the little things in life and how to deal with what life throws at me.

I will never forget you and everything you taught me.  I promise that I will live the rest of my life for the both of us!  I know I will see you again and I can’t wait til that day comes.

I love you,

Margaret

Being Judged. . .

“A Birthmother puts the needs ofher child above the wants of her heart”
-Skye Hardwick
Before I start this post I want to apologize if this postrambles.  I just wrote the thoughts in myhead as they came. 
I have follow a few different blogs written by birth mothersand I also belong to a group on Facebook that is for birth mothers aswell.  Recently I read a postthat was written by a birth mom that made me start to think about how somepeople in the world look at birth moms and how people don’t want to learn aboutadoption.  I  have never regretted placing my daughter foradoption and I also haven’t had people say things to me about how they thinkwhat I did was wrong but I  have gottenthe looks from people.  I get so tired ofpeople being ignorant and rude to birth moms but not listening or let the birthmom explain why she did what she did.  I wantto let the world know that birth moms choice to give their child a better lifethan what we could have provided them.  Iam always willing to tell my story so that other people can be educated aboutadoption.
It is also hard for me to understand how some people can beso closed minded that they will judge us but not take the time to listen tous.  Some people don’t understand howhard it is to place a baby for adoption and then get judged and tell us that wemade the wrong choice.    I have always been the type of person that ifI don’t personally agree with a person’s choice I take the time to listen andhear the reason behind their choice.  Iknow not everyone will like the choice we made but at least give a chance toexplain why we made our choice.  I guessthe point of this post was to ask people to respect our choices.  Our choice was right for us and it may not bethe choice for you but for use it was the right choice.
Have any of you been judged because of a choice youmade?  How did you deal with it?

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Smiles For Sunday

 If you yelled for 8 years, 7 months and 6 days you would have produced enough sound energy to heat one cup of coffee. 
(Hardly seems worth it.) 
If you farted consistently for 6 years and 9 months, enough gas is produced to create the energy of an atomic bomb. 
(Now that’s more like it!) 
The human heart creates enough pressure when it pumps out to the body to squirt blood 30 feet. (O.M.G.!) 
A pig’s orgasm lasts 30 minutes. 
(O.M.G.!!!) 
A cockroach will live nine days without its head before it starves to death.
(Creepy) 
(I’m still not over the pig.)
Banging your head against a wall uses 150 calories an hour. 
(Don’t try this at home; maybe at work.) 
The male praying mantis cannot copulate while its head is attached to its body. The female initiates sex by ripping the male’s head off. 
(Honey, I’m home . What the…?) 
The flea can jump 350 times its body length. It’s like a human jumping the length of a football field. 
(30 minutes. Lucky pig! Can you imagine?) 
The catfish has over 27,000 taste buds. 
(What could be so tasty on the bottom of a pond?) 
Some lions mate over 50 times a day. 
(I still can’t believe that pig …quality over quantity.) 
Butterflies taste with their feet.
(Something I always wanted to know.) 
The strongest muscle in the body is the tongue. 
(Hmmmmmm…….) 
Right-handed people live, on average, nine years longer than left-handed people. 
(If you’re ambidextrous, do you split the difference?) 
Elephants are the only animals that cannot jump. 
(Okay, so that would be a good thing.) 
A cat’s urine glows under a black light. 
(I wonder how much the government paid to figure that out.) 
An ostrich’s eye is bigger than its brain. 
(I know some people like that.) 
Starfish have no brains. 
(I know some people like that, too.) 
Polar bears are left-handed. 
(If they switch, they’ll live a lot longer.) 
Humans and dolphins are the only species that have sex for pleasure. 
(What about that pig? Do the dolphins know about the pig?) 
Now that you’ve smiled at least once, it’s your turn to spread these crazy facts!

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