Dear Melissa

As you all know one of my best friends passed away on Sunday.  I have tried many times to write this post and I have never been able to get words down on the screen.  I have really struggled with this because it was such a shock to me.  I was orginally going to write about what I love about her but I have decided that I am going to write a letter to her so that I can tell her everything that I never got a chance to do while she was alive.

* I am not going to get into what happened and other things that are going on as a result.   I know Melissa would want me to keep living and let go of anger and hate.

Dear Melissa,

I miss you more and more everyday.  I wish that you would have called me and let me know you were so down so that I could have helped you.  I am writing this because I want to tell you and all my readers what I learned from you in the short time I knew you.

  • I learned how to be a better writer.  You wrote posts that made people think and I hope that one day I can become as good as a writer as you were.  Every post you wrote for my blog and even your own blog made me think and contemplate things in my own life.  It takes an amazing writer to make people realize that they need to make changes in their lives just because of something you wrote.
  • I learned not to ever let people treat me bad.  I saw what happened to you and I refused to let people do that to me.  I show the toll it took on her and I don’t ever want people to control me.
  • I also learned that admitting you have a mental illness is nothing you need to hide.  It was great to see that I can blog about things and there are people out there that won’t judge me and will understand.   You are part of the reason I wrote my adoption story and started to post things that make me vulnerable.  I guess I hope one day I have people come to my blog like you had going to yours!
  • I learned to look for join in the little things in life and how to deal with what life throws at me.

I will never forget you and everything you taught me.  I promise that I will live the rest of my life for the both of us!  I know I will see you again and I can’t wait til that day comes.

I love you,


Margaret Tidwell

I am a 33-year-old blogger. I write about my life and my struggles with Multiple Sclerosis. I also am a huge bookworm, and I have been doing book reviews for years now. I even blog about adoption, Multiple Sclerosis, and things that go on in my life.

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  1. This is a beautiful tribute to your friend. I also wrote a letter to my twin after her death and found it to be therapeutic. I note that you lost your friend on October 16 which is also the date that I lost my twin in 2008. I am really sorry about the loss of your friend and would like to share these words that have helped me since the death of my twin:-
    “Those we love don’t go away.
    They walk beside us every day
    Unseen, unheard, but always near
    Still loved, still missed and very dear.”
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    • Margaret Tidwell says:

      I love that. I am going to use it next week for my quote of the week. Thank you so much for sharing it with me!

  2. I am in shock right now. I hadn’t seen much online from her since her Alaska trip and just thought that between me being busy and her being busy we kept missing each other online. She sounded to be doing well. Busy but pretty upbeat. I have never met her in person but finding out that she is no longer here brought me to tears. She was one of the first people I ‘met’ in the #mhsm community.

  3. Mrs TeePot says:

    Omg. I am in complete shock. Melissa was the first mental health blogger I found, she was so supportive even when she was struggling. I just don’t know what to say. She will be sorely missed.
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