Guest Post Friday

 

Resentment or grudges do no harm to the person against whom you hold these feelings but every day and every night of your life, they are eating at you”
Norman Vincent Peale

Have you ever experienced hurt or pain because of the actions or words of another? If you have, you know that often these wounds leave us feeling angry, and bitter. If those wounds were inflicted when we were children, we often carry those feelings around with us for years and years. We end up paying a higher price than the person who hurt us, because the anger and bitterness invades every part of our lives. Instead of feeling optimistic and happy, we feel anger, are upset, and depressed. Instead of looking at the positive, wonderful things that surround us daily, we focus on how we were wronged. With so much focus on how badly we were treated, it becomes very difficult for us to find contentment and peace.

Wonderful changes can take place in your life if you can learn to let go of your grudges.

  • Healthier relationships. You will be able to develop relationships that are not clouded by negativity. (I have a better relationship with my family than I ever had before.)
  • You mind and soul will become healthier.
  • Because of not being so angry all the time, you will feel less stress and anxiety.
  • If you have to take blood pressure medicine, you may be able to stop, because your blood pressure will come down.
  • You will have fewer symptoms of depression and anxiety, and in some cases less chronic pain. (I had serious problems with irritable bowel syndrome and gastroparisis. My symptoms have almost completely gone away since I have let go of my anger and bitterness.)
  • With less mental pain, there will be less feelings of needing to self medicate. This will lower any chances of alcohol or drug abuse.
There are things we can do to let go of our feelings of anger and bitterness.
  • Make a commitment to yourself to work on forgiving the person/s who harmed you.
  • Recognize the value of forgiveness and how it can positively affect your life.
  • Take some time to reflect on the facts of the situation, your reaction and how they have affected your life, your health and well being.
  • When you believe you are ready, actively choose to forgive the person who wronged you.
  • Move away from being the victim and release the control and power that the person who harmed you has had in your life

As you let go of your feelings of anger and bitterness you will find that you no longer define your life by how you have been harmed.

I know it is not easy to find forgiveness for people who have deeply hurt us. I know that some wrongs against us are harder to let go of than others. I know that sometimes we need help to let things go. In no way, do I want to make it appear that this process is easy, or make light of it in any way. The truth is we must let these things go, even if it takes years for us to accomplish this. I can tell you from my own experience, that once I was able to let go of my anger and bitterness my life changed drastically for the better.
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Writers Workshop

This week I picked topic number  3.) “It was as if an invisible thread hooked her to her boy. The thread could go taut or slack but it could never come undone, it could never reach the end of its spool because there was no end; it bound them forever.” What does unconditional love mean to you?

I picked this one because it is easy for me to write about.  I placed my daughter for adoption when I was 20 so I think I definitely have a view on what unconditional love is. Unconditional love is doing something for someone else even if it is going to hurt you.  I think most parents have this for their children.  Even when children mess up and do something wrong.  They may be mad and disappointed but in the end they still love you.  I say most parents because I don’t believe that my own mother loves me unconditionally but that is another post.

Anyway back to the subject at hand.  I love my daughter so much that I was willing to let her go and go to her family.  It hurts but to this day I still love her.  I can’t wait for when she is older and wanted to get to know me.  It will feel so good to know that she can see that I made the best choice for her.  I love her unconditional and nothing she could do would change that.
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Random Dozen & Day 18- My Views On Gay Marriage


1. What is your favorite Mexican dish?
I love them all!!!
2. When you were a kid, did you get started on your homework right away after school, or did you procrastinate?
I always procrastinated because I didn’t really care if it got done.  Most of the time it did get done but I always put it off and I still do this when it comes to my college work.
3. What is your favorite store for home furnishings?
Ikea
4. When you were young, did you like school lunches?
Yes I did.  In fact I would have rather had one from school than home.
5. Is religion a crutch?
For a lot of people yes.
6. In your region, what is the “big” (most popular in the community or state) high school sport?
Football or Basketball
7. Do you consider yourself rich?
Nope
8. Which of these would you have the best chance for success in administering:
A) CPR
B) Heimlich Maneuver
C) Changing a flat tire

9. Which dance would you prefer to learn & why:
A) Salsa
B) Hip Hop
C) Waltz
D) Swing
I looks like a lot of fun
10. What’s the worst news you’ve ever delivered to someone?
I was a CNA so I had to tell people when their loved ones passed away.
11. Name something you learned in college that had nothing to do with classes or academics.
How to surf the web!
12. New variation on an old question: If there’s a song in your head that just won’t get out, what is your favorite (or most repeated) line in that song?
I don’t like any song that gets stuck in my head.  They all drive me nuts!
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Today’s topic is hard because I don’t know where I really stand on the issue.  This is one issue where I go back and forth.  I don’t think being Gay is right but I also don’t judge people that are gay.  As long as I am not forced to watched or see it then I don’t see a problem with it.  I am tired of hearing about all the debates going on with the whole issue.  It is getting old.  Either pass the bills or don’t but stop arguing about it!
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Day 17-A Book That Changed My Views

I am a big reader and I don’t know that I have read a book that has changed my views on anything.  I have read a lot of books that have opened my eyes to things but not changed my views.  Right now I am reading Dog The Bounty Hunters first book.  I am amazed by how much he has gone through and yet still has his faith.  So it has made me realize that I need to be strong in my own faith even when life totally sucks for me.
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Check This Contest Out

The girl that designed my blogs is having a launch party for her business!  Everyone should drop by and check it out!  She does a great job and she has tons of cool prizes!
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From Wacky Jacqui’s Designs:
I am going to have a week long launch party event. I finally have a launch date for my website and I’m excited. There will be prizes given out by me and 25% off my 2 largest packages. This event will be from August 23rd to August 30th.

Now on to the prizes I will be giving to lucky winners.

3 winners- Custom Made Buttons
2 winners- Pre-made Design Package
1 Winner- Animated Header
2 Winners- I Heart Blogging Package
3 Winners- Custom Made Twitter Background

GRAND PRIZE-
A Blog make over that include everything I can do.
• 2 or 3 column design
• Custom background
• Custom header (basic or animated)
• Matching font color
• Sidebar titles (unlimited)
• Custom signature
• Custom post divider
• Social network icons (unlimited)
• Convert to a 3 column layout (if needed)
• Custom blog button (2 included)
• Matching profile picture
• Navigation bar with text or images
• Matching twitter background
• Favicon
• Deletion of Blogger navigation bar if desired
• Installation

Total of 12 prizes to giveaway.

Rules to enter:
Mandatory Entry- Follow this blog. You can only enter each prize only once AND you must write a post about the prize you want to win in order to enter. You must include the link back to the post you wrote about. Make sure you leave your E-mail so I can contact you.
-Sorry no multiple entries-

Please help spread the word for this event I am hoping this will bring me more traffic and more business. If you would like to donate any prizes to this event please let me know at Jacquisdesigns@gmail.com

Want learn more about Jacqui? Keep reading to hear what she has to say:

1.) What got you interested in Blog Design?
What got me interested is that I couldn’t find any “pre-made” designs out there that I liked for my blogs so I started to create my own. I started to learn the HTML of it all and got to work on creating my own designs. soon after I started to do little designs for blogger friends and it just took off from there. One of the people I was creating for told that I should start my own business. From then on I have been working on it.

2.) What kinds of things will be happening during your launch party?
Prizes, 12 Prizes will be given away: Buttons, Animated Headers, some packages and i will be giving away as a grand prize “Every thing I Can Do” blog re-design package.
also if you would like to purchase any of my 2 largest packages within the week of my launch party they will be 25% off.

3.) What is the one thing that you would like your potential clients know?
As of right now I’m only doing blogger blogs. WordPress will come soon but I want to learn everything about blogger designs before I start on WordPress.
I make fresh and clean designs, I want to make your blog to look amazing. I don’t mess with the template much so your page will not take forever to load like other designers layouts do. If you mess with the codes in the template a lot, or have a really complicated template installed your page will load really slow, and readers do not like that. they want to go on to your blog and read not have to wait 1-3 minutes for your whole page to load.
I DO NOT ask for your Blogger password at all during the design process. I don’t not feel comfortable giving my password out to anyone so I would not ask you to do the same. I know that people contact me about this and when I tell them that I don’t need the password to install the design they are shocked since all the other designers ask for it. From what I have seen with other designer sites are that I’m the only one that doesn’t ask for your password. (and I’m the cheapest and I give you a whole lot for bang for your buck).
I will make your blog look the way you want, I will involve you into the process also. I will send you everything little thing i create for your approval, if you don’t like the font i will change it. if you do like it at all I will create something that you are happy with. after I have installed your design and let say a month passes by and you want me to change the font or want it to say something else I will change it for you at no cost to you. I want to make you the buyer happy no matter what.

4.) What should potential clients know before contacting a blog designer? Before contacting a blog designer you should know what you want, and the feel you want for you blog. so you want it to reflex what you blog about (being a stay at home mom, giveaways, hobby’s) ; do you want it to have a certain theme (stars, clouds, flowers); and what colors do you want it to have. If you don’t know what you want or any ideas you have for your blog I will help you in any way I can, I’ll try to get ideas from what you already have as a blog design or what you write about.
You should feel 100% comfortable with the designer before you purchase and ask questions if you have any before buying.

HOPE TO SEE YOU THERE!