About Kindness

Kindness is in our power, even when fondness is not. ~ Samuel Johnson

In all honesty, the LAST thing I want to do is treat someone kindly when they have been rude or disrespectful to me – even when it’s my own family. I find myself thinking “I’ll show them what rude really is.” or”Pfft, they look like they’re in a bad mood today, they cannot even be bothered to smile, well then neither can I.”

There is something about someone treating me disrespectfully that makes me feel as if I am not obligated to be polite. I know this is a petty mindset, and I cannot behave any old way I want. I believe it is my responsibility to be kind in such situations, even though any feelings of fondness for the person are absent. However, I do try to remember that kindness/being polite must not be confused with giving someone carte blanche to treat me like a dormant.

The reality is, I really do not know what is going on in the life of someone I encounter at the store, bank, post office, or any number of other public places. Whatever it is could be contributing to their bad attitude for the day. My kindness – even if it is just a smile – could be the encouragement. In some cases, the politeness I grudgingly extend prevents me from becoming as ill behaved as the rude person I am interacting with.

Families are made up of people too. They can be just as rude, and mean as total strangers. There are even times when I do not like one or more of my family members. Not liking them does not negate my responsibility in being polite to them. Even in this circumstance, I do not have to allow them to run me over with their rudeness. On more than one occasion, I have had to let a family member know  – politely – that I love them, but I will not allow them to speak to or treat to me inappropriately.

Why do I feel I should treat people kindly? One reason is I want the impact – no matter how small – I have on a person to be a positive one. The other reason is I think it is the right thing to do:
Since God chose you to be the holy people He loves, you must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord for gave you, say you must forgive others. ~ Colossians 3:12-13

My obligation in every interaction is to be kind, or polite – NOT A DOORMAT.

What do you think? Do you think we should be polite in every situation? Or are there times when it is okay to be rude?

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A Few Great Songs

Jill told me about this artist and I have fallen in love with his songs.  I am going to post a few of my favorites.  His name is Matthew West.


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65 Questions


1. Tell us who the last person that you took a shower with.
I haven’t ever showered with anyone.  It always seemed weird to me to shower with other people.
2. Tell us about your favorite tee-shirt. Extra points if you show a pic. (We know. What can you do with freakin’ extra points?)
I don’t have a favorite one. 
3. Has anyone ever hit on you even though they knew you were taken?
Nope no one ever has.
4. Do you plan what to wear the next day?
Not most of the time.  Some days I do but most of the time I just figure out the morning that I am getting ready.
5. How are you feeling RIGHT now? Why?
I am managing!
6. What’s the closest thing to you that’s black?
All of my 4 remotes.
7. Tell me about an interesting dream you remember having.
I have weird dreams about the most random things and I don’t really remember any of them.
8. Did you or might you meet anybody new today?
Nope I didn’t meet anyone new.
9. If you could be doing anything right now (or perhaps after you finish this ridiculous meme) what would it be?
I can’t think of anything I want to do.  I am doing what I enjoy right now.
10. Can you think of a meme question that’s never been asked?
No I think they all have been asked.
11. What comes to mind when I say China?
Lots of people everywhere
12. Are you overly emotional?
Some days I am and other days I am not.
13. If you could listen to just one rock album (CD, vinyl or mp3) which one would you pick?
Nickelback
14. Do you bite into your ice cream or just lick it?
Lick it
15. Do you like your car?
I love my car!
16. Do you like yourself?
Not really but I am working on it.
17. Would you go out to eat with Charlie Sheen?
Yes simply because I want to know why is he is as crazy as he is.
18. What was the last song that you listened to?
A song by Daughtry.
19. Are (or were) your parents strict?
No not really
20. Have you ever wondered what attending a wild orgy (if only to watch or…) would be like?
Nope I haven’t because partying has never really been my thing.
21. I say cottage cheese. You say:
??????????????????
22. Have you ever met a celebrity?
Nope I haven’t
23. What was the last movie that you watched at home?
Remember The Titans
24. Is there anything sparkly in the room you’re in?
My purse
25. What countries have you visited?
I haven’t been out of the country
26. Have you ever made a phone call while you were drunk that you’ve regretted? If yes, do tell.
Nope I haven’t
27. Where were you going the last time that you were on a train?
Down town probably
28. Bacon or sausage?
Sausage
29. How long have you had a cell-phone?
Since I was 18
30. What other memes do you do regularly?
Other than my own I don’t do any of them regularly
31. Who is the craziest meme host?
????
32. Who invented chop sticks?
Some Idiot
33. Who are you going to be with tonight?
Zak
34. Are you too forgiving?
Nope in fact it is hard for me to forgive anyone at all.
35. When was the last time that you were in love?
Awhile ago
36. Tell us about your best friend.
I don’t wanna!!!!!!!!!  I have more than one best friend.
37. What was the stupidest thing you learned in high school?
Most of the stuff you learn in school is dumb.
38. What was the last thing that you cried about?
Brita
39. What was the last question you asked?
If we could go to Sam’s Club while we were out.
40. Favorite thing to do this time of the year?
Ride with the windows down and sun roof open
41. If you had to get a (or another) tattoo, what would it be?
I have no idea but it would be something to remember Brita by.
42. How would your best friend describe you?
Crazy
43. Have you ever seen all three Twilight films?
Nope and I don’t plan to see them.
44. Ever walked into a glass door?
Nope
45. Favorite color on that person that you are attracted to?
Army uniforms lol
46. Have you ever slapped someone?
Not that I can think of
47. What hair style (for you) would you like to see return?
Curly hair but it doesn’t matter if it returns or not because I will always have my hair curly
48. What was the last CD you bought?
I haven’t bought on in years
49. Do looks matter to you?
Not really
50. Could you ever forgive a liar?
Ya I did once and come to find out they just lied again so now I would say no I can’t
51. What’s the hardest bill to pay every month?
My car payment
52. Do you like your life right now?
No but I am working to get it where I will like my life
53. Do you sleep with the TV on?
No I turn the sleep timer on so it will turn itself off.
54. Can you handle the truth?
Sure can
55. Do you have good vision?
Nope
56. Do you hate or dislike more than 3 people?
Yes I do!
57. How often do you talk on the phone?
All day Monday through Friday at work.
58. What celeb would you like to come home to?
Zak
59. What are you wearing?
PJ’s
60. What is your favorite wild animal?
Tiger
61. Where was your facebook picture taken?
I made it
62. Can you waltz?
Nope
63. Do you have a job?
Sure do
64. What was the most recent thing you stole?
I don’t steal
65. Have you ever crawled through a window?
Once when I was little and we were locked out of the house.
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Dead Cow Lecture at Vet School

First-year students at the Vet School were attending their first anatomy class, with a real dead cow. They all gathered around the surgery table with the body covered with a white sheet.

The professor started the class by telling them, “In Veterinary medicine it is necessary to have two important qualities as a doctor: the first is that you not be disgusted by anything involving the animal body”. For an example, the Professor pulled back the sheet, stuck his finger in the butt of the dead cow, withdrew it and stuck his finger in his mouth. “Go ahead and do the same thing,” he told his students.

The students freaked out, hesitated for several minutes, but eventually took turns sticking a finger in the butt of the dead cow and sucking on it.

When everyone finished, the Professor looked at them and said, “the second most important quality is observation. I stuck in my middle finger and sucked on my index finger. Now learn to pay attention. Life’s tough, but it’s even tougher if you’re stupid.” 

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Lack Of Respect

A child who is allowed to be disrespectful to his parents will not have true respect for anyone.
Billy Graham

I am writing this post because I am worried that children in America are not being taught to respect other people.  You see all to often that people today want respect but don’t think they need to show respect.  It pisses me off to see how teenagers are treating their parents and even other teenagers that they don’t like.  I know when I was in high school there always was groups of kids that didn’t get along but for the most part we left each other alone.  Now it seems like kids go out of their way to make other people miserable.  I am having a hard time watching people do and seeing people I care about get hurt by family members.  I don’t get along with most of my family but I just ignore them.  I don’t go out of my way to hurt them.  How can a child be so disrespectful to the person who gave birth to them?  I had a rough childhood to say the least and I still can’t bring myself to disrespect my parents.  I can’t figure out why parents aren’t teaching their kids respect anymore.  How can parents sit back and be okay with their children bullying kids to the point that they commit suicide and even after the kid has passed away they are still saying rude things to them.  I truly can’t believe what the world is coming to.  You may not like everyone or even get along with everyone but you can leave them alone and not go out of your way to make people miserable.  Why people just leave each other alone.  Hell it isn’t just kids that bully either.  I have to wonder where the lack of respect has come from and if it will ever change.  I know I am rambling but I really want to know why people have changed so much and how parents can sit by and let their child treat people with such a lack of respect. 

I guess that is all I can say about it.  I am sure that I will post about this subject again because it is such a huge problem in today’s world.

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Day 21-23

Day 21-A Picture Of Something That Makes Me Smile

My girls are the one thing that can always make me smile no matter how bad my day was or how sick I am.

Day 22-A Letter To Someone Who Hurt You Recently

Dear Thing 1 & Thing 2
I can’t figure out how come both of you love to hurt people.  Maybe you both don’t know what you are doing but I hope one day you will figure it out and stop doing it.  I can see why both of you are single.  I am sure you guys won’t ever figure it out though.
Margaret

Day 23- 15 Facts About Me

  1. I was raised by my grandparents
  2. I was diagnosed with MS when I was 15
  3. I have 2 cats that are my world
  4. I am learning to design blogs!
  5. I hate to drive
  6. I am a computer nerd
  7. I love to read
  8. I want to go back to school at some point and get a degree
  9. I placed my daughter for adoption when I was 20
  10. I can see ghost
  11. I love reality TV
  12. I am a movie fanatic
  13. I love all types of music
  14. I am trying to build a relationship with my dad
  15. I was adopted by my grandparents when I 15.

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