Adoption Awareness Month

Adoption Awareness Month

Unless you have adopted, or are planning to do so, you may know little about children who need homes. Given that it is adoption awareness month, it seems only appropriate to give some general information about the world of adoption.

According to the U.S. Department of Human Services, there are 1.8 million adopted children in the United States; these children account for 2 percent of all children in the United States. Of those:

• 75 percent were adopted domestically.

• 37 percent through the foster care system.

• 38 percent through private services.

• 25 percent were adopted internationally.

About 75 percent of children are adopted by non-family members while 25 percent are adopted by relatives; seventeen percent of those adopted by relatives are adopted through the foster care system and 37 are adopted through private mediums.

There are several ways to adopt in the United States. One way is through the foster care system. In 2010, there were 107,000 children in the foster care system waiting to be adopted and 53,000 were adopted. The general process is that a state-licensed agency (either for-profit or non-profit) matches prospective parents to children in need of a home. Though substantially cheaper than all other types of adoption, many choose other means of adoption. This is because many people want newborns of a particular race, and foster care adoption houses children of all ages and races. Unfortunately, these children need a home just as much as all other children up for adoption.

A second way to adopt is through a private agency. Private agencies act as intermediaries between children and prospective parents in the matching process. Many choose this medium because the agency guides parents through the entire adoption process.

A third way to adopt is independently, i.e. privately. It is legal in most states, though Colorado, Connecticut, Delaware, and Massachusetts do not allow it; the laws surrounding independent adoption vary from state-to-state. This process involves prospective parents independently seeking out biological parents who have put their child up for adoption; lawyers are used as intermediaries. Many choose this means of adoption because agencies have policies regarding parent-criteria and prospective parent-biological parent contact both during and after the adoption. Independent adoption allows both prospective parents and biological parents to set their own criteria. Prospective parents control the search process and have direct contact with the biological parents; both parties also decide if the child will have contact with the biological parents after the adoption process is finalized.

A fourth way to adopt is internationally. China, Russia, Guatemala, Korea, and Ethiopia are common countries from which children are adopted; however, about 80 other countries around the world adopt out children to parents from different countries. In 2010, over 11,000 children were adopted from other countries. Generally, parents use adoption services similar to domestic adoption services. Many choose to adopt internationally to help children in desperate situations; many times, children are undernourished, under-educated, or have disabilities. Others choose this process because, depending on country, it can be less costly.

Amber Paley is a guest post and article writer bringing to us information and statistics on child adoptions.  Amber also writes about abuse in nursing homes.
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Book Review-House Of Secrets

House Of Secrets

FTC:I received a free copy of this book in exchange for my honest review.

The cover and excerpt from the book were taken off of the website that gave me the book to review.

They vowed, as children, to be silent…

When her father orchestrates a surprise trip to the summer house of her childhood, Bailee Cooper is unprepared for what follows. What is intended to be a happy reunion for Bailee and her sisters quickly becomes shrouded by memories from the past.

Together again, the three sisters sift through their recollections of fifteen years ago…of an ill mother, and of their father making a desperate choice. One sister believes their silence must end and the truth be revealed. But they soon come to wonder if they can trust their memories.

Mark Delahunt arrives in the wake of this emotional turmoil. Determined to win Bailee’s affection, Mark becomes a strong fortress for her in this time of confusion, and what was once a tentative promise begins to take root and grow. Caught between the past and an uncertain future, can Bailee let God guide her to healing…or will she risk losing the chance to embrace love?

My Review

I can’t saw enough good things about this book.  I read the whole book in 3 days.  It was an amazing book.  It really made me think about things in my own life.  I also now have the motivation to make some changes that I need to make in my life.  I usually don’t like books like this one but I couldn’t put it down and I learned so much about myself because the main character in the book is my age and has a personality like mine.  I am not going into details because I don’t want to give the story away to anyone who may want to read the book.

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FAQ

Mama’s Losin’ ItThis week for the writers workshop I am going to write about 2.) Create an FAQ page for yourself that answers frequently asked questions…you know…if people were to frequently ask you questions. People make those up all the time. YOUR TURN!  I chose this one because it will be something fun to have on my blog!

*Why did you start blogging?  I started blogging because a few friends of mine had a blog and it looked like fun.  Now that being said it has only been in the last couple of years that I have really gotten into blogging and working on getting followers and things like that.

* What does MS stand for?  MS stand for Multiple Sclerosis.

*What does MS do?  The simplest way to describe what MS does is to say that my immune system attacks my nerves that are in my brain and spinal cord.

*When were you diagnosed?  I was diagnosed when I was 15 or 16.  I was pretty young.  Most people don’t get diagnosed until they are in there 20’s to 30’s.

* What MS treatments have you tried and what treatment are you on now?  Lets see I have tried Avonex, Betaseron, and Copaxone.  I am currently on Tysabri and I am so glad that it works for me and if allowing me to live the life of a somewhat normal 26 year old.

*How old were you when you placed your daughter for adoption?  I was 20.

If anyone has any questions they want answered let me know!  I am going to turn this post into a page so that it will always be able to get to on my menu bar!

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Memories. . .

I have had this post in my drafts for awhile now and I figured today is as good as any to post it.  If you have other memories of Melissa please feel free to leave them and I will add them to this post.

 

Kathy Stricker left this message on Melissa’s Facebook page for me to use.

I remember the first time Melissa wrote on Facebook.  It was beautiful.Melissa really touched my heart.  I could feel her emotions..just flow out of her.  I remember telling her  “you can’t stop you have to keep on writing”.  Melissa was so surprised by my reaction as I was by her response.I told her no..you keep going your Amazing.  I believe in Melissa’s writing she touched all our hearts in a very special way.  Melissa I will miss you so much TYSM for touching my heart & having me in your life…RIP xo

Stacey Burgess– Emailed me this about Melissa

So many of us here at her University were shocked by her passing, and I wanted someone to know that she touched my life just by knowing her.  She was not only determined and motivated to be successful, but she shared so many stories with me of people that she helped through her blog.  We would sit on the phone for hours, forgetting that we were supposed to be talking about her enrollment in school, and instead, laughing and talking about happy times, or discussing life’s tougher situations.  I have admired her strength, and feel that I have learned a lot about life and survival and loving others… just by talking with her.  I want her family to know that Melissa really will live on in the hearts of those, like myself, who she touched.  She was so humble and sweet that she probably never realized how great of an impact she really had on other people!  I will always smile when I think of the talks that we had, and I hope that time, love, laughter, and happy memories can heal the pain that you are all feeling.

Gala Gardiner-Emailed me this about Melissa

I dont’ have a ton of memories.  I recently started following her blog and shared a few emails back and forth.  Saddens me to not be uplifted by her any longer.  She seemed to always have the brightest things to say on the days when I needed it most

David Merriman- He emailed me this about Melissa

I am Melissa’s academic counselor for her psychology program.  I only had a few conversations with Melissa but she struck a chord with me the first time we spoke because of her pride in the advocacy work she was doing through her blog and social networking.  It was clear over the phone how much this work helped her overcome her challenges and how much strength she gained while helping others find their strength.  She was always one of my favorite students to talk to because of her positive energy.

 

It is unfortunate I didn’t get to work with her through to her degree but I feel blessed to have had the opportunity to work with her even for a short time.  She is a great example of the amazing things we can accomplish when we resign ourselves to never give up.

If anyone else has any memories please feel free to either email me about them or leave them in the comments and I will update this post.

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