No Kids

No Kids

My brother and his girlfriend had a baby at the end of November.  I wondered how it would make me feel when there was a baby around.  His girlfriend went back to work this past weekend and I was shocked to see that it wasn’t sad for me to have baby around.  In fact having a baby around made me realize that I am 100% right when I tell people I don’t want kids.

When I tell people that I don’t want kids they always tell me that I will change my mind and things will change when I fall in love but I can honestly say I have no desire to have kids.  The baby is a good baby I just don’t have the patience or even want to find the patience to deal with kids.

I realized that I am selfish person and to be honest I am 100% okay with that.  I have to wonder how many women feel like I do but because people in this country expect you to have children so you never hear about it.  I also wonder if there would be less child abuse if women weren’t made to feel like they have to have children.

As most of you are aware I did have a daughter when I was 20 that I placed for adoption.  I now look at the situation and I am so grateful that I placed her because I am not cut out to be a mother to children.  I love my daughter more than anything but I don’t have the patience to deal with children.  I love to do my own things and be able to do what I want to do when I want to do it.  I believe this is also part of the reason that I am okay being single and not looking for people to date.

Anyway I guess I want women out there to know that it is okay if you don’t want children and to not let the world make you feel pressured into having them!  It is okay to say “No Kids”!

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Blog Carnival Against Child Abuse

I was reading a blog by Tracie and I saw that she was doing this blog carnival and need host blogs.  This is something that is near and dear to my heart because I have gone through it.  I haven’t blogged about this subject on my blog but I am going to post some of my story because I hope that one person will read it and it can help them.  I copied the following from Tracie’s blog.
The Blog Carnival Against Child Abuse is a monthly event. It’s purpose is to raise awareness about the serious issue of child abuse. All forms of abuse–physical, emotional, sexual, spiritual, verbal–are discussed. 

We highlight blog posts, from child abuse survivor stories and their art & poetry, to child abuse as a topic in the news media, as well as PTSD, dissociation and other areas of the abuse “aftermath” that adult survivors are forced to deal with. We link to hopeful posts about therapy, recovery and healing from abuse. All forms of child advocacy and awareness are included.

Many months we have a theme, but no matter what the theme is, we accept submissions for our regular categories:
-Advocacy and Awareness
-Healing and Therapy
-In the News
-Survivor Stories
-Art Therapy

I am going to need all the articles to me by January 26.  I will be posting all the articles on the 28th of January.  I am not going to have a theme because I can’t think of one.  If you would like to host a month leave me a comment or send a email directly to Tracie at:

You can send them to me at:



I am sure my readers that live in Utah have heard about this story but I really felt like I needed to write about it.

Here are two links to two of the story’s about this.  I would recommend reading them and then come back and read the rest of the post.

I am sicked by the people that live in this country and I will never understand how a mother can stand by and let someone beat and murder her son and then help that same man get rid of the body.  I don’t get how that the mother could justify not getting him help.  I mean hell if she was scared of going to jail for child abuse now she is going to jail for murder!  I am not going to go into detail about what all did to the poor little guy but it is a total joke and they need to be tortured and then killed for what they did to him.  What makes it even worse is that his really dad didn’t even want to send him here.  He knew is ex was unstable and didn’t trust her with his son.  Now he is going to have to live with the fact that his son is dead.  I guess I am just pissed off and don’t understand how any parent could do this or stand by and let someone do this to their child.  If I were the mom I would have taken the child out of the environment and sent him back to his dads.  I hate how parents use their children as pawns.  I was used like that for awhile when I was a child and it isn’t any fun at all!

What does everyone else think?