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Monday Mayhem

Today’s meme- Bathroom Musings
1. What do you read when you are sitting on the toilet?
I don’t usually read while I am sitting there.  I just get my business done and over with as soon as possible.
2. Do you pee in the shower?
No I don’t
3. Do you always wash your hands after you use the toilet?
Doesn’t everyone???  Ok everyone doesn’t but they need too do it.
4. Do you allow someone to come into the bathroom while you are using the toilet?
My cats almost always follow me into the bathroom.
5. Do you clean your shower in the nude?
No, I can’t say that I ever have done this.  Maybe one day I will give it a try
6. When you use the toilet at someone else’s house do you go through their medicine cabinet and/or their bathroom cabinets and drawers?
No because it isn’t my house.  I get in and get out.
7. For the Men…Have you ever left the toilet seat up on purpose to irritate the woman in your life?
I think all men do it to bug us!
8. For the Women…Have you ever fallen into the toilet because someone left the toilet seat up?
No thank god!
9. Do you courtesy flush?
10. Do you light a match or a candle or spray an air freshner when you are finished pooping?
I spray air freshner.
11. Have you ever fallen asleep on the toilet?
No I never have done that.  That would be totally weird that is for sure.
12. What is the strangest thing you have ever flushed down the toilet?
I flush spiders down the toilets but other than that I don’t really flush weird things down the toilet.

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More About Me

1. Do you iron your sheets?
No.  Do people really do that???  I hate to iron and that seems like a lot of work.
2. Your dream car is….?
A Toyota Celica or a Mustang.
3. Do you have an innie or an outie belly button?
4. What meal do you look forward to the most..breakfast, lunch, or dinner?
Lunch or dinner.  I dislike breakfast because it makes me sick every time I eat it.
5. Favorite mascara?
I don’t wear any so I don’t have a favorite kind.
6. What would you say your decorating style is..traditional, modern, eclectic, country, french country, shabby chic, etc..?
A little bit of all of them.  I really just buy things that I like and I don’t really have a style.
7. Have you ever been skinny dipping?
No I haven’t and I don’t know that I ever want to.
8. I hate the smell of…?

I can’t really think of anything that I can’t stand to smell.  I don’t like really strong smells of things.

Blogging Habits

Sunday Stealing: The Pretentious Blogging Meme

1. How long have you been blogging?
I started this blog in September of 2008 but I had one before that.  So I have been blogging since 2008 it looks like.  I didn’t think it had been that long.
2. What made you start?
My friend had one and I thought it was neat and wanted to make one for myself because I find it is easier to write my feelings than to talk about them.
3. Who inspired you?
4. About how many hours a week would you estimate you spend on your blog?
I usually spend at least 3 hours a day if not more depending on how much reading I have to do and how long my own post is going to be.
5. What kind of experience or background do you have with writing?
I don’t have any really.  I took to english classes in college and never really liked writing but I am finding it is a great way to meet people and talk about how I feel.
6. Talk about how you come up with blog topics. Where do you get your ideas?
Lately I do a lot of MeMe’s because they are easy but other than that I just write about whatever is on my mind.
7. What or who inspires you and your blog?
Everyone inspires me.  I just love to write about things that have happened to me and people that mean a lot to me.
8. Where and/or how do your brainstorming for your blog?
I don’t really brainstorm.  I just start typing and see where it ends up.
9. Do you have any blogging rules or guidelines you follow?
Nope-It is my blog and I will post what I want to and when I want to.
10. Is there anything you will not blog about?
Nope-I am an open book and will blog about anything.
11. Do you have any sort of a publishing schedule in terms of day of week or topic?
I try and post once a day but other than that there really are on rules to my posting habits.

Saturday 9

Saturday 9: Everybody is a Star

1. Did you ever think that you’d be a star? If yes, doing what?
No I always just wanted to blend in and not be seen.  I have never liked the spot light.  It has always scared me.
2. Tell us about the last time you had a romantic dinner.
I don’t know a time when I have had one.  I am not one for romantic things though.  
3. Tell us about your worst job interview.
All of them totally sucked major ass!  I hate interviews and what not.
4. Tell us about your stupidest date.
I didn’t really date so I can’t think of a stupidest date right now.
5. How much in common do you think you should have with a romantic partner?
Just enough to see eye to eye at times but not everything because then you will just get bugged by them.
6. Tell us about a favorite meme that you loved but no longer posts.
I don’t have one because I am new into the whole MeMe thing.
7. How did you get into blogging?
My friend Emily has one and I thought it was neat so I had to start one and once I did I loved it.
8. Do you share all your fantasies with a significant other?
9. What change in your life would you like to happen this year?
I am not sure what I would like to happen.  I know I want to be happy and figure out what I am going to do (can’t explain right now but I will soon).

Friday Letters, Five Questions, & Fill In The Blank

Well it is Friday and that means it is time to for some of my favorite MeMe’s!  As always I am going to start off with letters and then on to the other two.

Dear So and So...

Ask if I am cheating on you one more time and you can come and sign divorce papers!
Pissed Off Wife
It will all be ok I promise!
Tysabri & MS Active Source
You both suck major ass!  I mean don’t you get that undue stress with make the MS worse.  You just need to figure it out and let me know what you figure out.

For my birthday, the one dessert I want to
enjoy the most is:________
Since my birthday is around Thanksgiving my Grandma makes me a pumpkin roll for my birthday.  I also love ice cream cakes I just don’t get them very often anymore.  For my first birthday she made me a pumpkin pie and put a candle in it.  I don’t know that I really have a favorite birthday dessert though.
Questions for Friday, 1/29/10: (Muchos gracias to my friends, Lisa P., Liz, Megan, and Thorney London for their question suggestions! Wanna be linked in a future 5QF? Just leave me a question suggestion here, in my community! It’s fun and totally not scary…I promise! Check it out!)

1. Would you ever vacation alone?
Probably not.  I think it would be more fun if I had someone along with me.
2. Do you go the speed limit?
At times I do and other times I don’t.  I have a lead foot so most of the time I don’t realize how fast I am really going.
3. Why did you start blogging/following blogs?
I started my blog because I want to share my story about the MS and it is a good way to meet people.  I follow blogs because I love to read about other peoples stories and what not.
4. Where do you shop for yourself?
Every where.  It really depends on what I am looking for and what not.  I love to shop so I can pretty much find stuff anywhere.
5. What was the song that you danced your first dance with your spouse to at your wedding…or…what song would you like your first dance to be to?
We didn’t have a first dance.  I think that is cheesy and what not but each to their own!

1. How good are you at delaying gratification?
No I love to get the gratification right now!!!!
2. Maybe a marshmallow wouldn’t be too difficult a temptation for you. What food (or anything else) would be most tempting?
Anything that has bread with it.  I love bread and can’t eat it so that would have to be my biggest temptation.
3. On a scale of 1-10 (10 being saintly) how patient are you?
-12 lol I am the least patient person I know.
4. Have you ever waited for something in life only to be disappointed upon realization of the goal/object/etc.?
Nope not at all
5. Are you a person who takes shortcuts?
I sure am because I hate waiting around and what not.  I get bored easily so waiting and me don’t really work.
6. Which line is hardest to wait in?
I hate any lines.  If you can’t tell I am not that patient at all so waiting and me don’t very good together.
7. Did you wait to discover the gender of your unborn child until its birth?
Since I was placing her for adoption I found out early.  Didn’t wanna keep the adoptive parents waiting and what not.
8. Are you more patient with children or the elderly?
Elderly- I think this is because I worked in a nursing home for awhile and helped take care of my Great Grandma while she was dying.
9. Did you ever sneak a peek at a present?
No I haven’t but I am so hard to shop for that I always know what I am getting before hand anyways.
10. What is the longest you’ve ever waited for anything?
Not sure but it couldn’t have been very long because I don’t like to wait for anything.
11. Who has more patience, you or your significant other?
Not sure neither of us or very patient but if I had to pick I would have to say him
12. Which of the following songs about waiting is your pick for the best? (OK, you may substitute another, if you like.)

A) Anticipation by Carly Simon
B) The Waiting by Tom Petty
C) Right Here Waiting for You by Richard Marx
D) Wait for Me by Rebecca St. James

Pregnancy Pact Part 2

I decided that adoption was best for me because I wasn’t ready to raise a child and I wanted to give her two parents and a stable place to live.  Her sperm donor also wanted nothing to do with her.  I think he still believes that she isn’t his and that I get pregnant all by self.  Men really bug me in the fact that they can just act like they can just ignore people they get pregnant and that the problem will just go away.  I really wish it was that easy because if it were I would have not been pregnant for very long that is for sure.

I knew from the moment that I found out she wasn’t meant for me and that I had to find her family.  I really hated god for a long time because I didn’t think I could do it.  I didn’t know realize how painful the actual day of her placement was going to be on me.  I decided to do what they called a direct placement which is where you and the couple are in the same room and you place the baby into the couples arms and basically walk away.  Well lets just say I did that and then made them leave the room because I couldn’t stand to look at her with them.  That was the day that my heart really broke for the first time.  To be honest with you I don’t really remember the next few weeks.  I feel like I was just walking around in a daze just existing.  I was back to work in 3 weeks because sitting at home was killing me.  It was really hard for the first year but after that year was over it started to get easier.  Everyday is a struggle but easier than the first year was that is for sure. 

Her birth father had to sign away his rights because he was in the Air Force and because of stupid laws I couldn’t place her without him signing.  Lets just say that that was the most stressful part of the whole thing.  I had no idea if he would sign or if he would just not show up and make it so I couldn’t place her for adoption.  In the end he signed because I told him if he didn’t I would make him pay child support and that would mean less money for his car. So he basically signed her away because he loved her car more than he loved his own child.  I don’t get how parents can just walk away and not care or even think about their kids.

I have one thing in the whole situation that has bugged me and still to this day bugs me.  Why do people think when I tell them that they have to say sorry?  I know this is kind of off subject but why do people say that when I am not sorry for it.  I did what I had to do and I will never be sorry that I placed her.  Now that doesn’t mean that I won’t miss her but I will never be sorry for doing it.  Ok I will get off my soap box now.  Sorry I got side tracked.

I am amazed that people really think I am a strong person because I only did what was right for her.  If I wanted to take the easy way I would have kept like so many people do because they don’t think they can place their babies.  I want people to know that anyone can do it.  It was by far the hardest thing I have ever done but at the same time it was the greatest thing I have ever done.  Today as I sit here writing this post I realize just how much at times it hurts.  I have really had a lot of doubts lately if I made the right the choice and if she will hate me when she gets older.

After making this choice in my life I now don’t think that I want any kids at all.   I wasn’t the mothering type then and I don’t know if I have become that or not.  I know I could probably do it but why force myself to do something that I don’t think I am programed to do.   I am quite happy raising my animals and no kids.  Maybe one day but not for a long time if at all.  I just wish my husband would get that and drop the whole subject but that is a post for another day.

This post is all over but that is how my brain works.  Hope it makes some sense to everyone.  If you have any questions about adoption or about my story please leave a comment and I will get back to you!

Pregnancy Pact

I watched the Lifetime movie called “Pregnancy Pact” last night and it really got me thinking about teen pregnancy and about my story of getting pregnant and placing the baby for adoption.  I decided that I will give you that story today since it is on my mind and I am having trouble writing my post on the MS.  Don’t worry I am still working on it.  It is just going to take a little longer than what I thought it was going to.

Anyway here is my story.

I was 19 and going to school up at Weber State University.  I was a sophomore and going to school for nursing.  I was living in the apartment style dorms and lets just say the year started out bad.  I should have just moved off campus like Carrie my roommate from my freshman year.  The first apartment I was in that year was with freshman and lets just say it was hard because they wanted to party and I had a really tough class that I needed to study for so after things got really bad I asked to move.  In the mean time I had started to see a guy and lets just say that I didn’t wait long before I slept with him for the first time.

I moved into a new apartment with two girls that turned out to be drug addicts and one of them ended up over dosing the day before Thanksgiving but I am getting ahead of myself. After I moved in that apartment I got pregnant.  I found out because I was so sick that I went to the hospital to see what was wrong with me.  They ran a pregnancy test and told me I was pregnant.  I already knew I was at that point but I just didn’t want to admit to it. In fact I knew the night it happened that I was.

The rest of that semester is still fuzzy to me.  I can remember telling my grandma the night I got out of the hospital on the phone and she basically told me that I should place the baby.  The funny thing about that is that I already knew I was going to do that I just didn’t want to admit it to anyone else for a long time.  I started going to LDS Family Services because it was free and they had a support group for girls that were pregnant and not married. 

After the semester ended I moved home because I couldn’t deal with the stress of school and my roommate over dosing anymore.  While I was at home I was working two jobs and taking an online class.  In January I started looking for profiles of couples that were looking to adopt.  The first time I looked I picked out two couples and brought them home to see what my family thought.  This is where the story get weird to say the least.  Come to find out my grandma had talk to my social worker and asked her to pull a certain profile so that I could look at them.  One of the profiles that I brought home was the family that she picked out.  I didn’t know that until she told me after I delivered and everything was done.

In the mean time they did a blood test at the doctors office and they told me that the baby could possible have either down syndrome or what they call Trisomy 18.  Because of that blood test I had to go up to the University of Utah and have a longer ultra sound to rule out both of those.  After we got done with that the chances of it went done some and I decided that anymore testing could just wait until she was born.

After I picked them I made up a really cute basket of stuff for them and sent it to announce to them that I had picked them.  Well come to find out they had a gotten a baby in March and the agency didn’t know if they could place my daughter with them as well.  I told my social worker that I still really felt that is where she was supposed to go and that  she needed to try everything that she could to make it work.  After a few weeks of going back and forth and asking the other birth mom if it was ok with her they finally decided that she could be placed with them.

This was such a relief for me.  After we got that decision we started the process of meeting with them and getting to know them.  While this was all going on I was getting huge and super tired of being pregnant.  I was due July 7th and it was hot and tiring be pregnant during the summer.  I went in to the doctors a week before I was due and he said that if I didn’t go into labor on my own before my due date he would induce me on my due date. 

Well the morning I was supposed to be induced my water broke and lets just say I knew she would come on her own time and she waited until the last possible second to do it on her own.  I was in labor for about 12 hours or so.  When it was time to have her I had the adoptive mom in the room so that she could see her being born.  They ended up having to use the vacumn thing to get her out because she was stuck on my tail bone and I was too tired to keep pushing.

Two days after I had her I signed the papers and said my goodbyes to the baby that I named Gracelynn but they latter changed to Brita.  There isn’t a day that goes by that she doesn’t pop into my head and I just wonder is she happy??  Did I do the right thing????  Will she hate me one day because of the choice I made to place her for adoption????  I hope one day I will get to meet her and get to know her but I also know that it is totally up to her and I will have to live with her decision.

This is a really long post so I will post part two of this story tomorrow and get into why I made the decision to place her and things like that.
Hope everyone is having a great Monday.  If you have any questions feel free to leave a comment and I will answer all of them!!!