Since I have decided to start up support group pages and this blog I have found so many people that have placed for adoption. For the longest time I have struggled because I haven’t had anyone in my life who placed their child for adoption. It is so nice now to be able to say something and have other women know how I am feeling and completely understand the ups and downs that come along with placing your child. They understand that you can me sad and miss your child but that doesn’t mean that you regret your choice. I know I get sad but I would never change the choice I made to place her with the family who is raising her. I truly believe that she was meant to for them and that God wants them to be her family!
For a few months after I had my daughter I did go to a support group that the agency I used had but I got tired of all the drama that some of the girls brought and after I had my daughter it was hard to look at girls who were pregnant and not be jealous of them. I missed being pregnant because while I was pregnant that means she was still with me and after I had her I went home empty handed. It is a weird feeling to go to the hospital pregnant and then come home not pregnant and with out a baby. It is such a weird feeling to say the least. When they say that you ache for your child they are right. It is just something inside of you that knows something is missing. If you haven’t been through it I don’t know that you can completely understand it. I also hope that most people never have to learn what it feels like.
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Margaret, thank you for creating this blog. I am an adoptive Mom to a wonderful little boy born Dec. 2009. We "clicked" right from the first moment he was placed in my arms in an orphanage in Viet Nam in June 2010. As he was left anonymously at the orphanage that Dec. night I may never know who Lucan's birth Mom is or how she felt about leaving her son for another to raise. I find reading comments from birth Moms helpful to gain perspective and I will use that knowledge to assist me in helping Lucan come to terms with being adopted. I know we were meant to be family and that his birth mother did a very brave, loving and heartbreaking thing in placing him near the orphanage so he could be found and thus find his family. All the best to you!