I was going to post about MS treatments but instead I am going to write about how MS scared my husband away the first time he saw I was sick. I found a state during invisible illness week and really shocked me but in the same sense it made total sense to me. It said that 75% of marriages where one person has a chronic illness end in divorce. I am shocked by this but I also know it is true because I am one of the 75%. When I worked at the nursing home I saw it all to often. Peoples spouses would leave them once they got sick. On the other had I also saw the husbands that stuck around. I was always in awe of the ones that stayed with there spouses.
It makes me sad that people are so shallow that they leave when things are going as they hoped. It hurts me because I was 100% honest with my husband before we got married and once he finally saw that I was sick he left a few months later. I would never leave someone because they are sick. Just because we are sick doesn’t mean that we aren’t people who don’t have feelings!
This weeks post is short and sweet because I am angry about people leaving when someone has a chronic illness. I am not sure if my post makes sense or not but it is what it is! As always if you want to know anything leave me a comment and I will write about it!
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I've seen it before too, especially in nursing homes. How gut wrenching it is to know that someone is going through that emotionally. I never seem to know what to say to a person about their family and support in that situation. Unfortunately that's probably when they need it most.
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I am SO thankful that Doug is the man he is. When he sad, "For better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness or in health" he MEANT it. They weren't just words to him. (Or me). We knew SOMETHING was wrong, but had no idea it was anything so serious. Six weeks after we got married, I was in the U of M hospital, sedated, and dying. And he never left. He could have.
People take marriage SO lightly. IT's terrible. Marriage i a life-long committment, not just something that can be changed if it "doesn't work out." You have every right to be angry, Margaret. I'm so sorry you had to go through this.
Thinking of you!
Margaret. My mother has had MS for a long time and recently I have showed some similar signs and have been to scared to actually go get everything checked. My mom did the shots for about 3 years but they left nasty bruises and made her sick so she stopped. I am glad I have found your blog. I am sorry that your husband wasnt as strong as you and left. You seem to be an incredible person. A true inspiration.
Yes, your post makes sense. When my mom got.. shall we say, less than capable? My brother disappeared. He didn't see her the last 3 years of her life. He was, "I don't like seeing her that way" – and I did? I took care of her because she was my mom. That's what love does. I agree with you – people who leave? Celebrate 'cause they weren't worth having in your life.