This week for the writers workshop I am going to write about number 2 : Hi, my name is ______ and I am a _______. There are so many ways that I could answer that question so I just put the first thing that came to my mind. I think this came to my mind the first because I have been really struggling with being a birth mom. I am sure the thing that triggered my feelings now has watched my nephew grow up over the past year. It has made me see first hand everything that I missed out on when it comes to my daughter. It has also made start to ask the what if type questions. I haven’t ever really asked myself those types of questions because I know it was the right choice and know that those questions never get you anywhere in the long run.
I feel like I always have to say that just because I am asking myself the what if’s that I don’t regret my choice. I know that I did the right thing for both of us but that doesn’t mean that it doesn’t still hurt from time to time. Just because I hurt doesn’t mean I regret my choice. I can’t help but wonder where I would be and what my life would be like had I made different choices.
I do now know without a doubt that I don’t want kids and I am 100% okay with that choice. People tell me I will change my mind when I meet the right person and I can honestly say that they are wrong. I know I don’t have the patience let alone the energy that it takes to raise kids. I am glad I know this before I had anymore kids because it isn’t fair to have kids and not be able to take care of them and be there for them.
I got a little bit off topic but that happens in my world. If you are new here and want to know about my story you can click here and check it out.
How would you answer this sentence?
Just a quick note: I was looking through my archives looking for another post and I saw that I had already done a post like this back in November of 2013 you can click here if you want to check out that post as well!
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I admire your courage and honesty. This was a topic I couldn’t find a story for. There are so many defining roles and moments in ones life that is hard to choose just one. Stopping by from mama kats
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I totally agree with you and thank you!
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Hi Margaret. Just stopping by from Mama Kat’s writing prompts. Thank you for sharing. I know that all things work for good for the purpose of God and I am glad to hear that you are “at peace” with life. It is always hard sometimes to write about our past – our choices that went sour – but I think it is a sure sign of maturity and growth when we can look at those choices and see the good come from them now years later!
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I agree with you 100%!!!
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You made the best decision you could at the time. None of us knows what we would do in the same situation. Loved your honestly. She’s probably happy with a family that wanted her very much. Popping by from Mama Kat’s 🙂
I know she is happy and where she was meant to be. Thank you for stopping by!
Margaret Tidwell recently posted…Losing the Girls and The Road Paved in Pink
Thank you for your honesty. I’m in my late 30s, never married, and childless. I live a life that is not the norm and I get questioned a lot about my choices. I understand your story and I can empathize with your struggles. It sounds like you are at peace with your decision which is the most important thing, I think. People ask me if I’m happy and many times I can sense they don’t believe me when I say I am. That doesn’t matter though. It matters that I believe that I am happy… right?
Toni recently posted…Hi, my name is _______ and I am _______.
I understand and I totally as long you are happy that is all that matters!
Margaret Tidwell recently posted…Losing the Girls and The Road Paved in Pink
I’m so proud of the friends I have who recognize they don’t want to raise kids or that they don’t want to bring kids into a world like this. What a blessing that you know yourself so well! Unfortunately, I think a lot of women don’t learn this about themselves until after they’ve had kids and I can’t help but wonder if that’s why so many seem unhappy.
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I totally agree with you.
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