Letting Go Of Hate

You cannot hate other people without hating your self.
Oprah Winfrey

This has been a super hard post to write.  I think this has been the hardest post I have had to write so far.  I have been working on it on and off for months now and I keep erasing it.  I just can’t seem to find the right words to write what I want to say.  I know how I feel about the subject and what I am trying to say I just can’t get it written down right.  This subject got brought up because I have such strong feeling towards child molesters and people don’t understand why I am trying to let go of the hate for the person that hurt me.  Some people think that I am a hypocrite because I hate people that hurt children but I am still trying to let go of the hate I have been holding for the person that hurt me.  I have come to realize that hating people does nothing to the person you hate.  All it does is poison your soul and make you an angry hateful person.  Now that being said it doesn’t mean letting go of hate is an easy thing to do.  I have a few people that I “hate” and I am not sure if I will ever be able to forgive them for what they have done.  I hope one day I will be able to but I can’t be sure if I will or not. 

One of those people is Josh my husband.  I know I need to let go of the hate I have for him but it is so much easier said than done.  I know me being angry and hurt over the fact that he had to pick Christmas day to leave me isn’t doing anything to him.  He gets to go on with his life and it doesn’t affect him.  He probably doesn’t even think about it.  It is so hard for me though because every year the pain comes back.  I wish there were some way to erase the pain so that I could get past it.  I am hoping in time I will be able to forgive him but I am not going to make any promises.

I hope that this post makes sense to everyone.  I am sure that I will post about this topic again!

No one is born hating another person because of the colour of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.
NELSON MANDELA, Autobiography 

Margaret Tidwell

I am a 33-year-old blogger. I write about my life and my struggles with Multiple Sclerosis. I also am a huge bookworm, and I have been doing book reviews for years now. I even blog about adoption, Multiple Sclerosis, and things that go on in my life.

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  1. The Blog Writer says:

    This made me cry. Firstly, I'm sorry I'm just catching up with your posts though I've been a follower for a while.

    Secondly, you seem like a nice person. Feel good about you.

    I'm a little choked and am fumbling for words. I'd want to give you a tight hug, though.

    The happiness is coming. The hurt will pass.

    Have a happy weekend. 🙂

  2. From Tracie says:

    It makes total sense to me.

    I know that you have such a huge capacity for love…and that you are an amazing woman. You will learn to get past the hate, in your own way and in your own time.

  3. Beth Zimmerman says:

    Hey sweet girl …

    Maybe it will help, a little, to remember that forgiveness doesn't mean saying it was okay (it wasn't) or it doesn't matter (it does). It simply means that we surrender our right to revenge and leave our offenders to God's discipline.

    And you're right … hate destroys you, not them! Don't keep doing that to yourself!

  4. The act of forgiving is done for you, not them. It's letting go of the hold they still have on you, so you can move on. It's hard, especially when the hurt goes so deep, but forgiving is better for you in the long run. When it feels right to you letting go of the hate will happen.

  5. I understand.

    I think we can let go of our hate b/c that way, it doesn't own our lives any more. But, we can still think that what was done was wrong.

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